One of the most important things about being fully present in each moment is that we are able to be fresh and honest in our relationships with others. Instead of bringing the burden of our millions of previous interactions, some of which will have been distressing, with us into each situation, we are able to approach this current moment and accept it for what it is. If we are talking to someone we know well, someone with whom we have had many other interactions, we can still approach this moment free from all the emotional intensity of those past encounters. So, this person may have said or done things which upset us in the past, but are we able to move on from this and see this moment as a chance to start anew?
If we are totally honest with ourselves, I doubt there is anyone out there who has never said or done something which upset someone else, even if it was unintentional. There is so much opportunity for misunderstanding, for misjudging someone else’s motivation; so much chance of getting it wrong and holding a grudge when, seen through different eyes, there really is no need. If we try, at every opportunity, to see things from another point of view, we can learn to not hold on so tightly to our hurts and disappointments – to let go of all the baggage. Because when we hold on so tightly, we are unable to live in the moment, and it is ourselves we hurt the most. We deny ourselves the chance to welcome every fresh encounter, to engage in conversation without restriction, without constraint. We have so much hurt inside that we judge everything that is said through some kind of filter, one which is expecting criticism, sarcasm or pain.
By contrast, if we learn to process and deal with hurtful encounters as they occur, perhaps at the end of the day, or whenever we have some quiet time, then we can minimise this reactive way of thinking. We can live and communicate more clearly, free from emotions from some other time, some other place. I think of the hurtful emotions which we harbour inside as clogging and muddying our being, making it so hard to see each moment with clarity and freshness. When we engage in reflection, in meditation and in practices which promote our inner sense of peace, then we can clean away all this murkiness and live fully in each moment as it arises – without judging. Specific mudras and sequences of movements can help to release our negative experiences and emotions, and keep our chakras clear so that we can respond truthfully and peacefully to the challenges in our lives. And if tricky feelings do come up, and we feel that our communication may become hurtful and unkind, perhaps out of all proportion to present circumstances, we can take a few moments to watch our breath, to calm ourselves down, and hopefully respond more appropriately. The more we manage to keep our interactions present, clear and kind, the more we keep our throat chakra clear, and the easier it becomes to keep the channels of communication open, even in our most challenging relationships.